Remembering Fred Stephens
Fred’s family has established the Frederick Stephens III Memorial Scholarship Fund so that those who wish to contribute to the memory of Fred may do so. Michael Hessemer will be going on trial for Fred Stephen’s murder on March 5, 2009.
At the request of Fred Stephen’s family, I have removed all photos for the time being. Any photos of Fred should be mailed to Marques Johnson at marqueslj@hotmail.com. Below, I have reformatted my original post after I removed the pictures so that it may be easier to understand. My thoughts are with the Stephens family during this time of tragic loss.
Fred Stephens Murder Original post from Tuesday morning February 5th, 2008
Faryar Faramarzi has requested that I post some very sad news to my site today. I have never written about someone that I know who has passed on before and I know I will not be able to do the man justice, but I’ll try.
A friend of mine from when I lived in Sigma Chi fraternity was apparently murdered late Saturday night. Faryar sent me an email and an instant message this morning letting me know and giving me a link to the article.
Frederick Stephens III, 25, was in a hot tub around 1 am when a fight allegedly broke out between Fred and his friend Michael Hessemer, 23 in the recreation center of the apartment complex where they both lived in Lake Oswego. A medical call was placed and the medics had the police come after Fred was found drowned.
Michael Hessemer has an arraignment today at Clackamas County Courthouse. Mr. Hessemer will likely face murder or manslaughter charges.
Fred Stephens was a great guy, never violent and rarely even rough-housed much during the time that I spent with him. If Michael Hessemer was his friend, I think that there was a good chance that the heat of the hot tub, playing around and perhaps alcohol were involved. I will not speculate though until further details come out.
Fred Stephens was a great guy and I am extremely shocked by his death. I have never had a friend die before and I feel numb still. I hadn’t talked to Fred recently, but when we lived in the fraternity I spent a good deal of time getting into all sorts of adventures with him, Faryar, Marques and the other guys.
Fred has left many people behind who cared very much for him. He was one of the most sociable people that I know and was friends with literally hundreds of others in the UW community alone. Fred Stephens graduated from Bellarmine Prep in 2000, received a degree in Chemistry in 2004 from the University of Washington and also attended UW for grad school, recently receiving a degree in Health Services Administration.
I have rarely known anyone who was as kind, funny, adventurous and popular. Fred had a great heart and his death leaves the world a significantly grayer place than it was before.
My heart goes out to Fred’s little brother Ramone at this time, I know he really looked up to Fred and appreciated his influence in his life.
I think the saddest thing is that I can hear Fred’s voice in my head making fun of my post and telling me what to say.
RIP, Fred Stephens, you will be missed.
February 5 Update:
I have been amazed by the amount of people who have been affected by Fred’s death. I posted this blog this morning just expecting my usual readers to see it, but more people have responded to this post than to any other I have ever had. His life touched so many people in so many ways. If I hear when and where his funeral or memorial service are I will post it here, though it seems that Fred’s social grapevine will carry the info even faster.
February 7 Update:
I first posted this blog at Faryar’s suggestion when I first heard of Fred’s death on Tuesday morning. I felt like I had been hit by a ton of bricks and just shared what I was thinking. People began to find my post and started to share how they felt as well. Fred Stephens passing has left so many people behind who loved him dearly. This blog posting had so many people coming to look at it that my server nearly crashed; I had 35 times as many visitors in one day as I have ever previously received in a day and a nearly unbelievable 2,700 visitors have come in the last two days. Many people who cared for Fred have left comments as well and I have read them all, it’s heartbreaking. Fred Stephens is sorely missed by everyone who knew him.
Further information on the trial and Fred Stephen’s alleged murderer:
A Clackamas County grand jury is considering the charges against Michael Hessemer in Frederick Stephens III’s death. Michael Hessemer is currently being held in the Clackamas County jail on charges of second manslaughter (though these will likely be changed to murder) and his bail is set at $250,000. More details on Michael Hessemer have emerged recently. Mike Hessemer was 23 years old and had attended Lane Community College and was active in Young Life Ministries. At the time of Fred’s murder, Mike was working for an auto dealership. Mike Hessemer had grown up in the Lake Oswego community (the area he and Fred lived) and had attended Lakeridge High School where he had been a football player. Mike Hessemer had participated in numerous Young Life (a Christian student program) and had gone on a mission to Mexico and various camps in Canada. David Hessemer, Mike’s father, described him as the most kind and gentle person he knew. David Hessemer also said that Mike had been friends with Fred and is “at a loss as to what happened.”
Faryar Faramarzi on Frederick Stephens IIIFebruary 5 1:07 pm:
In the past few hours I have been informed of Fred’s tragic death. We have all lost someone very close to us. Fred Stephens was one of the most genuine, kind-hearted and easy going people I have ever met. Fred would never hurt a fly and he was always up for having a good time. He loved being with his friends and helping them out in any way he possibly could. Thats why this is so shocking to me cause incidents like this should not happen to people like Fred. Anyone who ever had the pleasure to hang out with Fred knows that as soon as this guy walked into a room his smile would light up the room and I can’t remember seeing him sad or unhappy even once in my life. I remember taking Management 320 with Fred Stephens at UW and he would walk into that classroom everyday with a huge smile on his face and that instantly made my day better as well. I also remember when we were groomsmen at Ali’s wedding and we were drinking, partying and telling jokes all night. Fred, I love you man and I really miss you and I know a lot of other people do as well. I can’t believe you’re gone but I know you are in a better place. My heart goes out to everyone who knew Fred, especially his family and his younger brother Ramone.
RIP Brother
Marques Johnson requests photos for memorial:
Marques published the following in a bulletin on MySpace and I put it up here because so many people who knew Fred making comments and sending me photos.
Hello friends,
As I’m sure you all know we’ve lost a great friend in Fred Stephens recently. I’m not going to use this as my forum to express my grief, sadness or frustration regarding his loss, but I do make this request:
I’ve just spoke with his family and they are planning on creating a video/digital tribute in memory of Fred. If you have any digital photos of Fred (appropriate of course) that you think his family, and us his friends, would enjoy please email them to me and I’ll pass them along for his family to incorporate.
My email address is marqueslj@hotmail.com
Thank you on behalf of myself and the Stephens family
Fred Stephens Funeral and Memorial Services
Thursday, February 14, 2008, 2:00pm-8:00pm
Viewing
Southwest Mortuary
9021 Rainier Ave. So.
Seattle, WA 98118
Friday, February 15, 2008, 11:00am
Funeral Services
First A.M.E. Church
1522 14th Avenue
Seattle, WA 98122
Update February 15: Funeral Service for Frederick Stephens III
I took the day off work today to attend Fred Stephens funeral. It was held at the First African Methodist Evangelical Church on the corner of Madison and 14th Ave. When I arrived there was a long line leading up to the entryway to the church and so I stood in the back with a guy I hadn’t seen in quite a while, Matt Gerken and eventually we made it in and signed the guest book. So many people were already there that they had run out of programs. When I walked in the large sanctuary was already packed full of people who knew and cared for Fred. Since I was by myself I managed to squeeze into a pew near the back, but several dozen more people had to wait for chairs to be brought out. The service began shortly thereafter and was like none I have attended before. The only other times I have been to funerals were for elderly relatives and usually there wasn’t very many people and the ones who were there were very aged. Probably 4-500 people were in attendance to remember Fred and almost everyone (aside from his relatives) were between the ages of 20-30. The service itself was very lively and the pastor made a point that this ceremony was to celebrate Fred’s life and not just to feel bad about his passing. My own dad was a pastor and so I have been to innumerable sermons, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone who was as powerful of a speaker as the Reverend who led this service. Perhaps part of his charisma came from the fact that he had personally known Fred. The service was very uplifting and watching the video/ photo tribute to Fred affected everyone in the room. Fred’s charm, open spirit and giant smile has touched so many people. If he had been able to live out the full life he deserved, Fred could have really changed the world. Many people have that said about them and for most of them it isn’t true, but Fred had the talent, intelligence and charisma to do anything he wished. Losing Fred is tragic, but the Reverend had a good point that those left behind should not just feel sorry for themselves, but should pick up Fred’s dreams and start to make a difference in the world like Fred did. After the funeral service, I talked to dozens of people that I haven’t had contact with in years and was amazed at the reach that Fred Stephens life had.
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February 5th, 2008 at 10:16 am
This was a good post Joel! I still can’t believe it happened and it’s so surreal. I feel so strange and depressed. Fred, you will be missed buddy and I know you are in a better place.
February 5th, 2008 at 10:45 am
Thanks Faryar. I am just blown away that Fred’s gone. You never expect something like this to happen, especially to someone as laid back as Fred Stephens.
February 5th, 2008 at 11:04 am
Also, if anyone else wants to share anything about Fred, please feel free to post it here in the comments or send Faryar or I a facebook/myspace/email message and I’ll include it in my post.
February 5th, 2008 at 11:46 am
Fred,
You will be missed, but you will still always be with us in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers. Thank you for touching so many of our lives in such a positive way!
(Thank you Joel)
February 5th, 2008 at 11:47 am
Fred, we will miss your smile. The world will miss having you in it. We will do our best to honor your kind spirit, vitality, compassion and humor. We were so lucky to have known you and will carry you with us always.
February 5th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Fred, I have never known a smile as far-reaching as yours. Your kindness and positive energy touched the lives of so many and you will be missed terribly. You are in my thoughts and prayers and are remembered so very affectionately.
February 5th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
Fred, I cant think of words right now. You know that me and ramon loved you to death, you were always like an older brother to me, and for that I will never forget you. Too many stories, too many good stories with you. I dont know why these things happen, but hopefully are by God’s side. Ill try and help Ramon the best I can, God bless you Fred, you really were amazing.
(Thanks again for this Joel)
RIP Freddy
February 5th, 2008 at 1:20 pm
I didn’t know you for long Fred, but I didn’t need to to know how full of life you were. You always brought good energy to the people you were around. I don’t think I ever saw you without a smile on your face. We’re going to miss you bud.
February 5th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
Fred,
The world will be significantly darker without your smile. You are one of the friendliest guys I have ever met, and you will be missed. You’re still the only person I know that actually drank Hennessy.
February 5th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
Fred and I shared many memorable, formative years together at the University of Washington and beyond. We took pride in our educations and accomplishments as young, Black men. Not lost on us were the opportunities and responsibilities our families had provided us through years of personal dedication and sacrifice. Behind Fred’s infectious grin and disarming sense of humor, was a highly conscientious young man who aspired for greatness. I was fortunate to know him intimately, both as the comedian and the champion. We spoke and embraced as brothers.
It makes me smile knowing Fred is up there laughing at me – laughing at all of us. He’s probably slapping his knee, shouting something to the effect of, “That’s right! I knew all ya’ll loved me!â€Â
Smile friends; Fred would have us no other way.
To the Stevens; Mr. and Mrs., and Razor… my prayers and condolences. God Bless you, as Fred blessed all of us.
To Fred; Houdini… just another day in the life… I will miss you brotha.
Matthew A. “Tizzle†Thompson
February 5th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
I cant believe something so terrible could happen to such a good, wonderful person with your heart. Your smile and personality has made such a positive impression on the many who were lucky enough to meet you.
RIP FRED! You must be in a better place, cause that is the only way this would all make sense
February 5th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Fred,
It’s been a while since I’ve seen you but whenever I’d run into, you’d always give me that great, big smile and bring up some of the great memories we were able to share in college. It’s crazy to think how much time we spent together during the school week being ‘those guys’. Some how, you’d always text/call me and wish me a happy birthday even if I hadn’t seen you in months. You were just cool like that.
You’re an awesome person and the world will really miss everything you’ve done and would have done.
Your passing came too early. You and your smile will be missed.
February 5th, 2008 at 3:00 pm
Hard to believe all this man. Fred, you will truly be missed. First time we kicked it, thanks for being down to ride on my birthday when we werent even close and everyone flopped. I couldn’t even start telling that story. Thanks for solidifying me as “darkness” to 95% of UW campus. And for dragging me into all kinds a nonsense in Chelan. You weren’t just a friend, you were my brother (especially according to half of Chelan County). I’ll see you when I get there fam.
Matt Mead aka Brother Darkness
February 5th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
I remember the day Fred walked into the frat. Immediately everyone loved the guy. At least that can’t be taken.
February 5th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Fred it was such a delight to have known you for the time that i did. I remember the first time i saw you walk into 24 hour fitness, i was blown away by your smile. Psalms 84:10 ‘better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere.’ Although you beat all your friends to heaven the memory of you will never end. The joys we will all feel as we reflect on your life will be heartwarming and bring smiles to our face. As Matt said, you’re laughing and saying “i knew you guys loved me”
February 5th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Fred–although you are gone way too early, the lasting and postive impact you made upon the lives of others will never be forgotten. Your positive attitude, dedication to family and friends and never ending smile will always be remembered by everyone who was fortunate enough to know you in this life.
You were a great leader and role model at Sigma Chi to all of the members. I remember how impressed all of us older actives were with you when you came and rushed the house. We immediately knew that someone of your strong character and ambitions would be a great addition to the fraternity. I still remember the time we went wakeboarding on Gabe’s boat when you were rushing–you couldn’t get up on the board even after 20 attempts but had a big smile on your face the whole time. That smile and laughter was contagious.
We will not let the loss of your life be in vain. Your many contributions to society, your family, and friends will always wear heavy among our hearts along with your memory. God speed, Fred: You are in a better place now
-Until we meet again.
Sean Griffiths AKA “Grip”
Sigma Chi
Upsilon Upsilon Class of ‘03
University of Washington
February 5th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
I cannot wrap my head around this tragedy.
Fred, you were a beautiful friend. I can hear your laugh, see your smile, and picture you wearing one of your yellow shirts.
You will not be forgotten, my heart is broken for this loss.
February 5th, 2008 at 3:44 pm
Thanks for getting this up Joel.
I remember meeting Fred Freshmen year through the frat, and it was only later on that we actually got close. And I really gotta thank Ramon and Akash for that – you guys brought me in and yall are like family to me. But right from the get go before that I really looked up to Fred and saw in him someone I wanted to be like: he was beloved and social but was also gifted smart and knew he could do great things, and went for it. I respect that so much in people and I think many of us do try to be like that today, and Fred can be thanked. To do big and great things and do them right. He just lived life *well* to me.
I told Fred to his face once and I’m thankful that I did, that the fact he was always smiling is the single best quality I’ve ever seen in any of my friends. And how I saw him act socially was so rare: he was confident but with a genuine sweetness. He acted the way I wished everyone would act, to strangers or friends or family alike.
He wasn’t just a friend or brother. He was like a guru to me and a lot of us. And to him I say, go ahead and warm up Blitz, but before I get there I gotta make you proud.
February 5th, 2008 at 4:08 pm
Ok this is extremely difficult for me and as many of you have written direcly to Fred, I am unable to gather the strength to put my emotions into words at this time. I do however want to thank everyone for your ongoing support and love. Fred was the love of my life and the life that we had planned together our future is all gone now. I do not know how I will go on without him but I do know that we all have to use Fred’s optomism and enthusiam for life to help us be strong and live better and happier lives for him because that is what he would have wanted for all of us. Thank you all again.
also the pic of him and i with my mom, brother and Brothers girlfriend was taken at a wedding we went to this summer in Canada.
Love to all. Stay Strong.
February 5th, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Alex, my apologies on the mislabeled picture. If you spot any other errors, please let me know.. I just posted this page this morning and may have made other mistakes. I am so sorry for your loss.
February 5th, 2008 at 4:34 pm
The very first time I met Fred, I vividly remember thinking to myself, “this guy is nicer than any guy I think I have ever met, and he has the biggest smile I have ever seen!”. His ability to delve into deep conversation with anyone, even if they were a stranger, was just one of his many remarkable qualities. I was lucky enough to be one of those people. I wish terribly that I could recall what it was that he and I discussed on that night we first met, but I know it was one of the best conversations I have ever had. I am comforted in remembering his face, with that huge smile, and knowing that I had just met someone that I would never forget. After that first meeting, I think I only saw him a few more times, but to this day I can so clearly remember him and that says so much. He touched everyone who had the privilege of being in his presence and will never be forgotten. We will miss you, Fred.
February 5th, 2008 at 4:59 pm
Fred, you were like an older brother to me. Whenever I saw you, whether it be on campus, at the house, or at our family lunches, you always had a big ol’ smile on your face which immediately made me light up! You were so kind and sweet to me, and I will never forget that. You were an amazing man, Fred, and my heart aches knowing that so many people in the world won’t get a chance to know you or that sensational personality of yours because of this tragedy. However, I know that God will use you and this loss as a light to those who were fortunate enough to have ever been in your presence. I know you’ll watch over me in heaven, just as you would if you were here. I love you.
Until we meet again,
Melissa
February 5th, 2008 at 4:59 pm
This is a tragic event in all of our lives. I knew Mike since 5th grade and have met Fred numerous times around Lake Oswego, as well as up at UW. Both had very charismatic personalities and both have touched many lives. My heart goes out to Fred’s family and to all of you who knew Fred more than I. I don’t expect many of you to believe me, but Mike does have a kind heart. I also want to point out one thing with the blog. Above in Red it’s stated that Mike pulled Fred into the hot tub to drown him. If that was the case Mike would be charged with Murder and not Second Degree Manslaughter. Second Degree is applied when manslaughter is accidental. I know it is tough to jump to conclusions with what truly happened that morning, but it is now in the hands of the judicial system. I again send my deepest regards to all of you who have lost Fred as a friend or family member.
February 5th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Fred you are a one of a kind man and there is no one else’s face that I can recall more easily than yours (especially with that goofy grin). There is too much to say about you to put here, so I’ll just recount my favorite story and know that you hear the rest in thoughts.
I was flying back from palm springs during spring break on Southwest (first come, first serve seating) and was a bit late to board. I saw two guys a ways back with an empty seat between them and realized it was Fred & Ramon! The two of them were making a stop on the way home from Vegas and were on the same flight as me… We laughed and joked so loudly the entire time until eventually the stewardess had to quite us down. The only problem is that she was no match for Fred’s charm and wit. She ended up loving us and brought the three of us drinks.
I guess what I’m saying Fred is that the second you spoke to anyone you made them feel special and as if they had known you for years. I met you through Ramon, love you both as my own brothers, and cherish every memory of you.
February 5th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
If anyone has questions or concerns about the facts of this terrible tragedy, please email me, sean.mich.buchanan@ gmail.com or give me a call. 425.830.5762. at this point, I’m sure the Stephens family would appreciate some time to themselves for this period of mourning. I will be organizing a vigil, as well as contacting people to make them aware once a service is established. Thank you, and love to all.
Sean
February 5th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
Honestly, this is the hardest thing that i have ever written. Fred’s friendship meant so much more to me than i ever really realized. Its one of those things that doesnt hit you until its too late… And now, it is…
We had lost touch over the past few years, but Fred and I went to high school together and then in college, he and I ended up living in the 17th Ave Christian mens house during our freshmen year. I can still remember the first day i walked into the house and I saw his amazing smile. Neither of us knew the other was living there and we both acted as a foundation for eachother throughout the entire first year of college. On my 21st birthday, Fred and I attended the yearly party Jacked Up at our soon-to-be fraternity Sigma Chi. We made a pact that night that we would see each other through this next chapter in our lives too… and signed with the house together. Along with a few other fraternity brothers, we became inseperable. I always remember people coming up to me and asking “Where’s Fred?” Like I was supposed to keep tabs on him… Just thinking about that makes me smile. We ended up getting a house together a year later and once again, became inseperable.
In the end, I can honestly 150% say, that Fred made me a better person. He made everyone around him a better person. His love for life was infectious, his smile was infectious, he was an amazing person. It really hit me hard last night, after the shock wore off, that I will never again get to see his smile, or hear his laugh, or be in his company, and so I wanted to share with all of you, what Fred meant to me.
Fred: I dont know what comes next in life, but I know that whatever it is, you are there smiling, and laughing, and making everyone around you feel like they are the most important people there. I will never forget you brother…
Your friend,
Pete Christman
February 5th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
We’ll miss you terribly, Freddie. I will always remember the ear to ear smile you seemed to wear every second of every day. Your kindess, warmth, humor and optimism impacted all those who came into your life. Your time has come far too early, but you will not be forgotten. Rest easy, my friend.
Mark McLean
Upsilon Upsilon Sigma Chi, class of 2002
February 5th, 2008 at 6:44 pm
I have been in complete disbelief over this tragedy since I heard the news late Sunday evening. My emotions have gone from sadness, to depression, to frustration, to anger and back since I recieved that phone call. I don’t know how such a terrible thing can happen to someone who was so kind, generous, outgoing, hard-working, caring and full of life.
We had some amazing times in the few short years we knew each other, and I plan to go through my pictures and post them to help me cope. I will not forget the times we spent together for a whole week during initiation. I will never forget that amazing Summer of 2002 we had at Sigma Chi and our memorable trips to Whistler. I will never forget your trademark smile and your ability to make anyones day brighter. Last, but not least, I will not forget your constant words of encouragement and your support of me and my ambitions. I will dedicate my future endevors to your memory.
Its pains me to no end to see such potential go unfulfilled. You were a great friend and brother, and your memory lives on through those that knew you and cared about you.
Rest in peace my friend. I hope to see your smile again.
Jeff
February 5th, 2008 at 6:50 pm
This is unbelievable. Fred was one of the ultimately genuine people I’ve met. Big smile, bigger heart. Fred was so many more things than I could possibly think of right now, but one thing he was is a great friend. My thoughts are with his family.
February 5th, 2008 at 6:55 pm
Thank you, Fred, for being such an incredible, genuine, charming and positive man. You have impacted so many people’s lives in such a short time, and you will never ever be forgotten. Your kind soul and that unbeatable grin will continue to make all of us smile as we honor you forever. So much love… kn
February 5th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
I have been in disbelief since I recieved the news late Sunday. I can’t help but be angry, yet I feel tremendously blessed to have known you and been your friend. It is a mystery how someone as kind, genuine and full of life could be taken like this, and at this point in your life. It pains me to no end to see such potential go unfulfilled.
You were a great friend and brother. You had a glow about you that cannot be put into words, and your smile could instantly make any day brighter. Your heartfelt words of encouragement and support of my ambitions meant more to me than you will ever know. I will dedicate future projects and endevours to your memory.
Rest in peace brother. Hope to see that smile again.
Jeff
February 5th, 2008 at 7:05 pm
Unfortunately, it is these types of events that make each one of us put our lives in perspective. Sadly, tragedies occur, and the worlds seem to fall from underneath us. However, do not free fall with the pain but rather grab onto those close to you and be thankful that you had the opportunity to know a man as great as Fred. The world may seem like a darker place now…but instead look at it as an opportunity to pick up where Fred left off. We owe it to Fred and ourselves to make the world a brighter place in his stead. We should be greatful to Fred for showing us how to accomplish just that.
RIP – Brother
February 5th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Oh Fred… That smile… Every time I think of you I see that smile. I think it’s the biggest most sincere one I’ve ever seen. I really enjoyed working with you while it lasted. I wish I could hear you say “willy nilly” one more time.
God Bless you and your family.
February 5th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
The world was blessed to have your smile and soul a part of it… I was lucky to have been touched by your kindness.
February 5th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
I’ve written this over and over again. I can’t do Fred any justice. We’ve all had an opportunity to enjoy him in our lives, and now we’re left with only the fondest of memories. Fred was younger than me but I couldn’t help but look up to him. He approached life with an unparalleled zeal. His charisma was infectious, as was his smile and laughter. I think that nearly everyone on campus new him by name, more impressive was that he knew them by name as well. All of his interactions were so genuine. Fred was a genius. He would attend every social event while acing all of his courses. We took classes together for a couple of years before it came up that he was in the honors program. Extremely intelligent, while entirely modest. I would have him down to parties at TKE, we weren’t supposed to do that. After Fred had came a few times though, people began to ask me where he was because he made the parties better for everybody.
The last time that I saw Fred, the last time I will ever see Fred, was at a Husky football home game. He saw me first and I heard him call out “Parker” a few times. I hadn’t seen him in a few months but I knew without seeing him who was calling my name. I couldn’t be happier to see anyone, and we embraced like brothers. We hadn’t planned on meeting up that day, but I’m so fortunate that we did. I wouldn’t want to remember Fred any other way.
Fred, I love you. You were destined for so many great things. Thank you for all of you support and love over the years. I am truly saddened that I didn’t make more of an effort over the last few years but you have taught me never to make that mistake again.
My condolences to Fred’s family and friends, we lost a truly unique and amazing young man.
Jake Parker
February 5th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
as i am reading all of these messages i am reminded of all the wonderful qualities of fred. he touched so many people and lifted their spirits. that fred smile…it was infectious.
fred, marques and i took a poetry class together, taught by a eccentric santa clause of sorts. every student in that classroom was in awe of fred, his charisma, his depth but most of all his kindness. one day about a week into the quarter we were required to read our poems to the class. one daring student volunteered to go first and as he finished his 20 lines fred began to clap. fred was the only one who had the impulse to cheer on a classmate. everyone turned to look and saw that huge smile, watched fred glance mischieviously at marques and begin to chuckle as he realized he was a lone clapper. everyone else followed suit and from that point on we applauded each other after each reading. that is just what fred did, reminded us to be each other’s champions. he was a leader, a lover and brave young man.
our world is a little brighter because someone like fred was here. we understand what positive thinking can accomplish, we have learned the friendships we are capable of, that genuine kindness still exists and most importantly that you never show up to see your grandma without a collar on your shirt and your pants ironed.
you were loved and still inspire.
lindsey ‘GARDINER’ guevara
February 5th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
I am so sad to hear of this tragedy. Fred was such a kind, genuine, and loving person, and I know he will never be forgotten. I’ll always remember his positive and charismatic personality and I have countless great memories of him from college, as do many of us! He inspired everyone… and I can still picture his smile and hear his contagious laugh after so many years! My heart goes out to his family and friends. It is unfortunate that the world lost such an amazing person. We all love and miss you!
February 5th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
Rule 76 No excuses play like a champion
That was his motto. And I think that’s what he would have wanted to tell us if he got the chance. I miss my older brother.
February 5th, 2008 at 9:55 pm
Oh My Neighbor. I miss you. Every little second. I wish I could hear your feet stomping around. Its amazing how comforting that sound was. I miss your smile and the wake up calls I got every morning. You were always so happy and smiling, even when it was snowing! Fred, you always told me that “it was a pleasure” but you have no idea how much of a pleasure it was knowing you. Everytime I hear the stairs I wish it was you, and I want you to know I miss you. You are the greatest of the great, the most honorable person I have even known and had the honor to spend time with. The time we knew eachother was so short, but it felt like we knew eachother for years! You and your napkin on your lap and how you just don’t like salad dressing! Or when I burnt the steak and you said it was delicious no matter what. I wish i could see you, or hear you or see your smiling face. You will forever be remembered. The greatest of the great. I know you are in a better place, heaven. and I can’t wait to see you there. RIP.Fred . I miss you. and thank you for everything.
February 5th, 2008 at 10:10 pm
I never had the pleasure of meeting Fred, but i consider my self a close friend to both chris and mike and this is shocking news to all of us here in Eugene. I hope God grants peace to Freds family and friends. He sounds like the kind of man that was very loved for very good reason. I am sorry for your loss.
RIP
February 5th, 2008 at 10:17 pm
Fred I love you so much Bro!!!!!!! Why did this happen to you ?? Why didn’t I make it to Portland to see you? We shared so many good times, so many!! I thought we would grow old together. I don’t know what happened but I wish I could of been there to help you! I love you man !! see you when I get there…. R.I.P Fred Stevens the third
February 5th, 2008 at 10:30 pm
All of these comments are truly a testament to what a great guy Fred was. He had a way of making everyone feel like they were his best friend. He will be missed.
RIP Fred, I know there is special place reserved for amazing people like you.
February 5th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
I cant believe that something like this could happen to such an incredible individual. Fred had integrity and a giant heart. He was a friend to everyone, so intelligent, cared deeply about his friends and family, and had such an infectious laugh and smile. I remember when I “played” Fred in a sigma chi skit, I was the only one without lines. I just held up a giant cut out smile over my face to obviously symbolize his constant laughter and ear to ear grin. Fred, your radiant smile will never be forgotten and will always be missed. Like many, I am lucky to have had your friendship. This is truly a terrible loss. My heart goes out to his family.
February 5th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
It is such a tragedy and I am can barely grasp the concept of this lost. I am so glad I had the pleasure to meet Fred and become his friend. I will never forget the times we spent together and all the times he made me laugh. He was one of the politest people I’d ever met, with so much class. I’m so greatful to have so many memories and am so happy when I picture his huge glowing smile.
My heart goes out to his family and everyone who loved him for this terrible loss.
February 6th, 2008 at 12:40 am
Although words cannot do justice to you Fred, I will try to describe what you meant to many of us.
A man of unwavering disposition, Frederick embodied everything that is inherently good in this world. His grin was as contagious as it was unforgettable.
His moral fortitude stood stronger than a tree, and yet he never once passed a judgment.
His body may have passed from this earth, but his spirit will burn in the hearts of many for generations to come.
Fred accepted all of us for who we are, and instilled in us the faith that we all need in ourselves to carry on. He blazed a trail through this world, while blessing countless hearts along the way. Frederick was taken from us too soon, but the way we have him live on is to never stop loving him.
To quote the French poet Alfonse De Lamartine – “Grief knits two hearts in closer bonds than happiness ever can; and common sufferings are far stronger links than common joys.â€Â
In this time of confusion and sadness, we need nothing more than the comfort of the people we love. Let us all soon come together and celebrate the brilliant life of Frederick Stephens III.
We will miss you Fred.
February 6th, 2008 at 12:50 am
I am still in shock to what has happened to our dear friend Freddy (as I use to call him). Many of my college memories at the University of Washington included Freddy and his brother Ramone. I cannot even begin to imagine what their family is going through at this time. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Stephens family, Ramone and Akash who I know also saw Freddy like an older brother. Freddy was such an amazing and talented man with a great big smile and infectious voice that you could never get out of your head. He was always the life of the party and wanted everyone to have a good time. So many good times and memories were had with Freddy that I will never forget. Your life will be celebrated for eternity…
February 6th, 2008 at 1:29 am
How crazy to think what a close family we all became in college. After getting the phone call the other morning i sat there for a while just sick to think anything like this could happen to such an amazing person. One of those people that stick out in your mind so much as someone this just isn’t supposed to happen to. What a giant heart and spirit he truly had. I can’t get the sound of his voice saying my name out of my head, and especially the thought of his constant smile that I truly don’t think i ever saw him without in the years i’ve known Fred. What an amazing gift to have been able to call Fred my friend. I will never forget all the spring break and sweetheart trips, all the crazy dances with you in the middle of the dancefloor, just hanging out at the house, and the ridiculous amounts of laughter and fun we all shared.
Fred, i will never forget the sound of your contagious laughter, that smile that always filled the room, your gentleness, kindness, amazing all-around friendship, and of course the look on your face everytime i strolled in with another ridiculous outfit on. I will love you forever and never ever forget you. You touched my life and my heart, and you were part of my family in college, and i thank you for for that. You are truly unforgettable
What an amazing family you had to be the incredible person you were, to so many people. My heart and prayers go out to all of you
February 6th, 2008 at 1:42 am
It is in those moments, the ones in between the tears that I feel close to Fred. I am blessed with his memory each time I can share a smile. Fred’s untimely death will change our lives forever. May Fred’s smile remain on your heart and in your mind; forever and always. My heart, love, and prayers go out to the family and those who loved him.
February 6th, 2008 at 1:50 am
I had the pleasure of meeting Fred a few years ago through his brother Ramon. Ramon and I have been best friends for a few years and he introduced me to my husband, Jason. Jason and I had the pleasure of having Ramon and Fred in our wedding. The Stephens have always been Jason’s second family and I know that Jason loved Fred as a brother. Fred’s life should not have been taken so suddenly and especially this inhuman. I know he is pissed that he is dead, but I honestly believe he is in a better place. Fred loved life and the people that he surrounded himself with. He was good to everyone! Fred was a unique individual, with a great personality, wonderful sense of humor, very intelligent, contageous smile and laugh, easy going, he had a big heart, and was a wonderful friend. Fred, you have touched every persons life that you have come in contact with. You were a beautiful person and will never be forgotten. Thank you for all the good memories and mostly for just being you. Jason and I will miss you dearly! There will never be another Fred Stevens.
February 6th, 2008 at 1:57 am
Arbor,
Thank you for the positive impact you had on my life & the lives of everyone lucky enough to have met you. I’ll always remember that big ol smile that lit up the whole city & that contagious laugh that would get me going until I had tears in my eyes. You were a model human being & I looked up to you. Still do. I love you Fred.
February 6th, 2008 at 2:49 am
I remember Fred being super cool, really fun, and ridiculously friendly. He’ll be missed for sure!
February 6th, 2008 at 2:51 am
Fred, you are one of the most thoughtful and considerate people I have ever met. Even though its been 5 or so years, I can’t think of a single memory of you without that smile! You impacted so many people in so many positive ways. All these comments are a testament to the great person you are.
February 6th, 2008 at 4:14 am
In college Sigma Chi was a huge part of my life, and therefore Fred and I spent a lot of time together. I’ll never forget all our wonderful memories. He is truly an amazing person who has been part of shaping who I am today. Love you Fred! You’ll never be forgotten.
Thanks Joel!
Nat
February 6th, 2008 at 6:21 am
Joel ( I hope this is the young ladies name who posted this) I am writing this on behalf of my whole family. We really want to Thank you and everyone who has took the time to post something on this site and are truly sending there love out to us at this time. Fred will always be remembered!!!
February 6th, 2008 at 9:41 am
You and Ramon are my brothers. Your family has always been like a second family to me. Fred you have taught me more than you will ever know. You are the big brother i never had and i loved you as if you were blood. I find myself in a sureal trance as i write this. I just cant beleive you are gone. I cant get out the image of your huge bright smile that almost defines every thing you were. You gave me so much advice that to this day has helped make who I am. At my wedding you took me aside and told me that as my brother not my friend that you were happy and proud of me and it kills me to think that was the last time i saw you, but i am so happy that you, ramon, and I had that time together. It still rings in my ear “damn I look better as a groomsman then you do as the groom” whats sad is that you did. As a my big brother not just a friend i am so proud to say i knew you and you have touched my life in so many ways. I will do everything i can to get home and be there for your family and Ramon. I love you Fred and will miss you.
February 6th, 2008 at 10:03 am
Fred was the man. He was a much better person than I am. I keep thinking not only of his smile, but the sly look he used to have when he was reading between the lines of a social situation and knew what was really going on. Every time I caught him with that look there was a big burst of laughter to follow. He was really smart that way and in a lot of ways. I feel like he was the type of guy that was going to make a positive impact on a lot of peoples lives in the future as he has on all of our lives. It is so unfortunate to lose him in such a tragic way. This whole thing is almost surreal. It is a real eye opener for me to surround myself with the right kind of people. Maybe that is his permanent impact. I’m sure this will affect a lot of people differently and hopefully we will all be better people for it. Thanks Fred.
February 6th, 2008 at 10:35 am
I still can not believe that Fred is gone. I heard the news early Monday morning on my way to work . I was shocked and in tears and went back home. Fred is my son’s best friend and like a brother to my daughter,Sara and like a son to me. He was a wonderful , well brought up person, Fun, polite,a gentelman by all means and full of life. He loved to come to our house and have my food . His favorite was the persian bread and cheese which he even asked for it when Ali was visiting him a month ago. I feel sick to my stomach to know that he was murdered in a such harsh way . He intouch with Sara Just a couple of hours before this happens to him to wish Sara Happy birthday and asks Ali to visit him the following week. Sara has been crying and not able to function since she has heard the news.I can not function since I heard the news. He was Ali’s g
Groom’s man in his wedding and his picture is popping up on my computer screen all the time with his big , beautiful smile. I can not believe this has happen to someone like him. It is alway hard to lose some one you love , but to lose some one like this!!!!!!!!!!The pain I feel in my heart Is … and I am sure it is not near what His mother and father and brother is feeling. I am very sorry for your lost, our lost. My heart goes to the Mother and I am here if you need me for anything, any time.
My dear fred, we all miss you.
Shideh
February 6th, 2008 at 11:12 am
Fred,
You were there with me since the first day of me rushing Sigma Chi. Whistler will never be the same with out your smile. You friendship meant a lot to me and I just wish I didn’t take the future for granted so much. I thought you’d would just be around for me to run into when I was in the area. The world will be be a little darker with out you there to brighten it up.
Jimbo
PB for life
February 6th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Thank you for the smiles, laughs, jokes, dancing, conversations, family dinners and so much more. My heart goes out to everyone that has been affected by this horrible situation that has come upon us. Fred, sweetie, you will never be forgotten and will be terrible missed. I am just so thankful that I did get a hug on Saturday. xoxoxo.
February 6th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
Sad. Shocking. Unreal. How can you come up with words to describe a situation like this? Fred, no one who knew you will EVER forget your smile and enthusiasm for life. I honestly can’t remember a conversation with you that wasn’t accompanied by a laugh or a smile. You are and forever will be deeply missed. Rest In Peace, brother.
Cory Brewer
Sigma Chi – ‘03
February 6th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
I was lucky enough to know Fred for 4 years of college, and I am very thankful for that. Living across the street from Sigma Chi, I got to know those boys well and will always remember Fred as a kind, gentle, funny, smart, sincere person. His radiant smile and personality will never be forgotten. Thank you for the great memories, Fred. I am sad that I was not able to keep in touch after college. My thoughts are with your family and everyone that had the opportunity to know and love you.
February 6th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Words cannot express how much Fred meant to so many peoples’ lives. The wonderful comments posted by friends and family alike are testament to how much good can be found in a sometimes cruel world. We can all learn so much from a man like Fred Stephens; he was a friend to everyone, and everyone’s friend. Fred, your smile and attitude is contagious and will be forever missed.
February 6th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
When I learned the news of Fred’s passing, I simply couldn’t believe it. To think that a man with the qualities that Fred embodied has been robbed of his dreams and future accomplishments far before his time, is heart wrenching. Like the rest of us, Fred’s infectious smile, genuine sincerity, compassion, and his love for those around him immediately remind me of what a beautiful person he was. My heart goes out to his family- I cannot imagine the pain and sorrow they are enduring because of the loss of their son and brother- a parents’ dream child and a brother’s best friend.
My deepest condolences,
hoda
February 6th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
Fred thank you for letting us all be a part of your life. There are so many people that feel blessed to have know you. I consider myself luckily to be able to call you my friend. You will truley be missed. I know you are in a better place smiling down on all of us right now.
My condolences to Fred’s family, especially to his brother Ramone.
February 6th, 2008 at 3:43 pm
I was lucky enough to sit and talk to Fred a few times in the short time in which I knew him. It amazes me that one person can have enough carisma to lighten up a room as soon as he enters. A smile so contagious it could wipe a thousand years of hate from a persons face. A ture tragedy for ALL parties involved. I will be praying for you Fred. Your legacy will live on in the people who loved you. Which appears to be everybody!
February 6th, 2008 at 4:14 pm
I had the opportunity to spend time with Fred throughout my time at the U. He definitely had a contagious smile and such a warm personality! This is absolutely devastating news to hear and my heart goes out to all his family and loved ones.
February 6th, 2008 at 5:49 pm
Does anyone have any funeral or wake information?
February 6th, 2008 at 7:43 pm
Goddamnit Freddy. You will be missed.
In Hoc.
Ames
UW Sigma Chi ‘03
February 6th, 2008 at 7:59 pm
I have been working closely with Fred in Portland for the last 6 months or so and I am heart-broken by his death. He was such a great guy to work with and spend time with. I already do and know I will continue to miss spending time at his desk talking sports, talking movies, sharing snacks, laughing, joking and occasionally actually getting work done together. I do a corny little Friday Trivia contest at work and Fred always actively participated, took it seriously and quite often won. I always looked forward to it after he won…he’d come over to my cubicle with his HUGE smile and collect his Butterfinger. That’s just one of the many things about Fred I am going to miss. (As a side note, Fred knew Barbie’s –the doll- last name and middle initial. I still think that is amazing.)
It sounds like I knew Fred in a bit of a different way then a lot of you, as a colleague as opposed to a school friend or fraternity brother, but it is very apparent that he left the same impression on all of us. He was just such a kind, courteous, caring, thoughtful and fun young man that will be deeply missed by all those that were fortunate enough to have met him.
My deepest sympathies go out to his dear family and all his friends. May God’s mercy, grace and compassion reign down on all of us during this terribly sad time. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Noah Salvione
February 7th, 2008 at 12:12 am
I’ve sat here and read all the stories about our dearest friend fred. such an impact he had on everyones lives whether it be for years, months, weeks or days. He didn’t know anything but good, and that is what he shared with all of us.
I remember being sick on a night we had planned to hang out and watch the ducks vs arizona game. I told him i was sick, and his response was “I’m not afraid of whatever little cold you have.” Fred wasn’t afraid of anything. He was a determined person, and that showed from the first time i spoke to him. That night i discovered how terribly uncomfortable his sofas are, how ticklish he is behind the ears on his neck, how much family and friends means to him, how the Appalachian State University beating michigan wolverines changed football rankings forever, and after sitting through a commercial for the Pac10 how much the University of Washington meant to him. Pickles, anchovies and green peppered pizza, never a better choice, huh fred?
The life and legacy of fred will live on through each of us. Although our smiles will never be as huge as his, we can share ours as though it was!
Philippians 1:27 – whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worth of the gospel of Christ.
Matthew 5:16 – in the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven
Love and Miss you ~KRISTI (ps quack quack)
February 7th, 2008 at 8:04 am
Living across the street from Sigma Chis for four years was one of my favorite memories of college. And even though I lived across the street, Fred walked me home almost every night I went out freshman year just cause he is that big of a gentleman. I will miss that big smile, his distinctive laugh and his gentle manner. When I think of freshman and sophomore year, I think of Fred. I will miss making a hot tub out of a bath tub in whistler or dancing on the dance floor of sigma chis bar room…. I regret that we didn’t keep in touch after college but feel blessed that I got to know Fred during his short time here on earth…
February 7th, 2008 at 10:53 am
You had an impact on all of us..even back in Montana..Me and Manness were trying to think of the good times we had with you in Seattle…The most hilarious was when it was Brians 21st Birthday and we were at the All American Sports Bar on the AVe. Know one cared it was Brian’s Birthday, but when Fred entered the door…The guy gets on the microphone of the Bar…and says FREDS IN THE HOOUUSSSSEEE!!!you got like a red carpet with Confetti for going to that bar…It was hilarious….We miss you bro …..From Montana
February 7th, 2008 at 11:39 am
I’m speechless and do not know where to begin. I met Fred through one of my best friends (Ali) and I used to come to Seattle all the time and just chill with Ali and his friends. I used to have the best times in Seattle and I never knew why… Now I think I know why… How can you not have a good time around such a happy person, smiley and great guy??? As soon as I get to Seattle the first person I ask about is Fred!
Well, Fred your truly going to be missed a lot!!! I don’t know who I’m going to have the pointless debates with anymore when I’m in Seattle and whose gonna send me random texts to annoy me…. But I will deffinitely miss it!
February 7th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
I guess there never really is ‘the right thing to say’ but say what’s in your heart….
Upon viewing the pictures on this blog my mom commented ‘ I had forgotten how handsome he is’. She is right. That is how to describe Fred inside and out. I went to St. Anthony’s with him in Renton (a k-8th school) and was lucky enough to connect with him again at UW. When we both did a UW summer internship after HS graduation I think he told my mom that he would look out for me….I think sometimes I was looking out for him. He was the only other person I knew, and when it’s your first time to live away from home, you are very thankful for the people around you. I was lucky enough to have Fred. You could not help but smile when you saw him. From enjoying the first time being abele to live in Dorms to working in labs on campus, I was lucky enough to reconnect with such a kind, caring, intelligent, talented, makes you laugh till it hurts, human being. I remember sitting in a Freshman Chemistry lecture at UW with 200+ people. I started laughing a little bit to myself because out of all those students, the only other African American student in the room was Fred. He will be missed and my thoughts and prayers go out to his family, to all of you that have had the chance to meet him, and to the rest of the world that will be missing out on the chance to get to know him.
February 7th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Fred, i couldnt thank you enough for being there and bringing out the best in my sister Alex. I love how incredibly happy she was when ever she talked about you or was thinking about you… (you know when shes thinking about you, because she would always be smiling!)… We had some good times when you would come visit the fam in Tahoe. Singing P-Diddy while boating just pretty much laughing the whole time! i know one thing that i will never fotget is your SMILE! They say memories last forever, i know we all have many amazing memories with Fred and those memories will be with us in our hearts forever.
See you at the Crossroads- Bone Thugs
February 7th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Fred,
Your amazing smile was so contagious. I looked forward to your yearly Vegas trips. I can’t even begin to write how devastated I became, when I heard of your sudden departure from us. You are such an amazing gentleman. I am so blessed that I met you through my cousins ALI and I hope you know that I will miss your Holiday text messages. Your family should be so proud of raising such an amazing and smart son!!! You will never be forgotten. RIP MY FRIEND! We are so lucky to have an ANGEL like you above us
February 8th, 2008 at 11:14 am
Fred,
You were an amazing young man that his life was cut very short. Your smile would brighten up a room. I’ve always remember your smile when you worked for me and calling me “sir”. Fred you will be missed son.
R.I.P.
Uncle Tony
Joel thank you for the blog and all your hard work to remember a fine young man. Thank you
February 8th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Fred,
I’m shocked and honestly don’t know what to say. It was great to run into you last summer. You will be greatly missed by all who had the pleasure to know you.
RIP
February 8th, 2008 at 5:20 pm
I have never known a kinder heart or a warmer smile than that of Fred. He immediately lit up a room from the moment he stepped into it. My fondest memories consist of lots of laughter and LOTS of dancing. He told me next time he was in Seattle, we’d go out downtown dancing. Still brings a smile to my face. Fred, you have touched so many lives and your memory will continue to do. Thank you for being a part of mine.
February 8th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
I didn’t know Fred as well as the rest of you, but I condsider him my friend. Brian and I found this on the tombstone of Brandon Lee and I feel it is appropriate. “Because we don’t know when we die we get to think of life as an inexhaustable well. Yet everything happens a certain number of times, and a very small number really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon in your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being you can’t even concieve of your life without it? Perhaps for or five times more. Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet, it all seems limitless.” Fred, you were a shining example of how we all should live. The real tragedy would be for all of us to forget that now that you’re gone.
McCraze
February 8th, 2008 at 7:28 pm
Although I only worked with Fred for a short time, I will always remember his friendliness and charm. Fred carried himself well with the upmost respect for himself and others. I believe Fred made his mark very apparent in many ways in many peoples lives and is now living the real “good life” in heaven. My condolences go out to his family and friends. He was a man that I wish everyone had a chance to meet.
February 9th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
Fred,
You were like a big brother to me. I never could express in words the effect your life has had on my family and me. Whether it was scavenger hunts as kids or working at the boat launch during the summer, a day spent in your company was always a day worth cherishing. You were one of the last few people on this earth who knew how to truly live, and at the same time live truly. You were always an inspiration to my brother and me, and a reminder that life was meant for living. You taught people more about life with one smile then some people do their entire lives. All I know is that when you get the Pearly Gates all you have to do is flash that smile of yours and heaven won’t ever be the same. My thoughts and prayers go out to Mr. and Mrs. Stephens, Ramon, I will help in whatever way I can.
God bless you all
RIP Fred
February 9th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
Joel:
I am Fred Stephens’ cousin, Anna, and I want to thank you for the wonderful words you have on your blog about my cousin. You spoke with my husband Nick Moore the other day. Below are more details about the service which you can share on your blog if you like.
Thursday, February 14, 2008, 2:00pm-8:00pm
Viewing
Southwest Mortuary
9021 Rainier Ave. So.
Seattle, WA 98118
Friday, February 15, 2008, 11:00am
Funeral Services
First A.M.E. Church
1522 14th Avenue
Seattle, WA 98122
Again, thank you so much for your heartwarming words.
Fondly,
Anna
February 10th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Fred, you are truly a great friend and have touched so many of our life’s. Words cannot explain the pain of your loss. Thank you for being such a great friend and a great person, you will truly be missed. I know you are in a much better place looking over us.
February 11th, 2008 at 11:18 am
Joel,
What a wonderful tribute to such a beautiful man. Words cannot express my grief over losing Fred. Will you please contact me at the email address I supplied?
Warmly,
Nicole
February 11th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
Fred was one of the kindest and happiest people I have met.Outside of his contagious smile and up-beat personality it was hard not to have a good time when hanging out with him. I feel so lucky to have had the pleasure of sharing countless college memories with him and am shocked by this loss. My heart goes out to his family as a great individual lost their life too soon last week. Rest in Peace Fred, I know you are in a better place!!!!
We will miss you my friend!!!!
February 11th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Totally shocking. Ton of positive qualities. Very bright person. Instant positive impact on those he met. He made people feel better and enjoy themselves; he gave the gift of hapiness. Since his memory will never die with me or the rest of his friends, he will always make his friends and me happy.
Very sorry Fred that your time came so early, but I do believe that you must be in a better place.
To your family, I extend my deepest thoughts and warmth in a very tough time for you.
Thank you to Joel and to those that are contributing to all of this.
Chris Dolan
Sigma Chi 2003
February 11th, 2008 at 5:55 pm
Fred,
I’ve never met a more well rounded individual than yourself. My deepest condolences are forever extended to your family and all the other people that were privileged enough to share a close relationship with you. You will never be forgotten.
February 11th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
Watched Fred and Ramon grow up best friends with my own sons, Brian and Patrick. Knowing how this has hit us makes it hard to even imagine the devastation Janet, Fred Sr., Ramon and their family are experiencing. We’ve pulled out many pictures from the last 20 years or so, and Fred’s smile continues, and will always continue, to illuminate our lives. Fred is in a better place than we are, for now. We grieve for our own loss and his Family’s tragic sorrow, but are determined to celebrate the joy and beauty that the experience of knowing Fred brought to our lives.
I’m originally from Ohio. Some years back, after a rare Buckeye loss to the Huskies, the phone rang at home. It was Fred Jr., who was totally enjoying the moment, and exulting over the outcome of the contest. We spoke for a while, insulting each other’s team, but all through the conversation, Fred kept calling me ‘Mr. Reymann’. Finally, I said “Fred, you don’t have to call me Mr. Reymann!”
“Okay, I won’t, Mr. Reymann.”
It is a privilege to have known the man.
February 11th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
This was difficult news for me to hear about Fred. I attended St. Anthony’s with Fred 4-8th grade. He was always polite and smiling. I couldn’t understand how anything this tragic could have happened. Even though this was hard to grasp it was Fred’s time to be with the Lord. Fred had done what the Lord had wanted him to do on this Earth and that was warm us all with his kind, bright spirit. Just know that everything happens for a reason and that Fred is smiling big upon us all.
February 13th, 2008 at 6:19 am
as for me and I’m sure everyone else – I’ve never met someone with such a big, continuous, genuine, soft hearted smile…
February 13th, 2008 at 9:55 am
Myself and a big group of guys grew up with Fred and Ramon in Puyallup. Some of the funniest and best-loved memories I have from that time, and I’m sure I speak for the other guys as well, are of Fred and Ramon making us laugh. I remember one time when Fred first started driving he went out without telling his parents – he told Ramon to tell them. Well when their parents came home and were looking for Fred, Ramon told them “Fred said he’s independent now and doesn’t need to tell you where he’s going.” The ensuing chaos was priceless – and I have tons of memories equally as priceless. I’ve lost touch with some of the guys over the last couple years, but I always felt in the back of my mind that we’d all get together again and be able to take up where we left off. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Stephens family and friends, and we all know that we’ll see him again one day in Heaven and take up where we left off.
February 13th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
I’m truly dumbfounded..!! Fred and I met in a freshman engineering class, and spoke with each other all throughout college. Although merely a good acquantance, he was someone who had touched my heart. We always bumped into each other at random times and places and had a good conversation. I would adventure saying he was an indirect friend, one I knew would help me if I needed it, even though we never formally spent time together.
Fred and I’s last encounter which lead to an embarrasing but funny evening:
Two years ago while out with my girlfreind now fiance’, Fred saw me and ordered a drink and had the waitress bring it to me. Happy to see him I got up and had a small conversation with him. A month or two later I was at Jazz Alley with my fiance and freinds and I saw Fred, he sat down so I called the waitress and had her bring Fred a drink to return the hospitality. The waitress went to him, exchanged conversation, left the drink on her serving plate and walked directly to me and said “he’s under age”. I said “what, he’s a funny guy he’s probably joking” so I took the drink off her plate and offered it to him, come to find out it was Ramone, his brother.. Jokes on me. Being that Ramone had a similar kind, easily approachable demeanor as Fred we shrugged it off and had a good,short conversation..
I send my condolescenses to the Stephens Family…!!
February 14th, 2008 at 3:54 am
Miss ya Fred… Me and MoMo are going to be fine…. gotcha bro.
February 14th, 2008 at 11:09 am
This is a sad day. Fred was not only loved at UW but but was considered a Brother at the Pi Kappa Alpha Chapter @ WSU as well. Fred, Marquse and I threw multiple Rush functions together. It was because of Fred and his hospitality and support that we were able to recruit the men we needed from the Seattle area to our chapter. Fred was always welcomed in our house and it is because he was just naturally one of the guys. Naturally a good and gentle person.
Fred was the first sales rep for me when I started working for Explosion Sportswear. He helped me get on my feet 3 years ago when I was the campus rep for UW. He was always so praising and supportive to me. I owe a lot of my current and past collegiate success to him, his mentoring and support.
It is just shocking that anyone would ever want to do this. I keep asking myself, what in the hell did Fred EVER do to make someone want to fight him and then go on to kill him? I never even heard of some one disliking Fred..EVER!
Fred you touched so many people in such a good way. I hope that you are in a better place where those will appreciate what you have to offer and not try to do you any more harm. You were such a strong and kind man and were true friend and brother. I will miss you dearly.
With love and prayers- Jameel
February 14th, 2008 at 11:50 am
This news is clearly shocking to everyone who knew Fred. A wave of emotion has set over me since the day I received a call about Fred’s tragic death. As many have said before, his smile was infectious and could light up a room. I met Fred at UW and only knew him shortly but ran into him after college every now and then. Each time I saw him he greeted me with a huge hug and smile. The last time I saw him was at a Husky Football game just this past year. That same great smile that I knew from college greeted me in the Montlake parking lot along with his upbeat, drawn out tone as he said my last name. I will forever remember Fred for his amazing charisma and huge heart. You will be missed my friend!! My thoughts are with his family and everyone who had the pleasure of knowing him.
We love you Fred! -Duval
February 14th, 2008 at 7:32 pm
Fred was in a carpool and a grade school with my children long ago. He was someone so impressive even then, that I have never forgotten him. He was so bright, so polite, so kind, and funny. I imagined and wished for him a wonderful future! I loved his influence on my kids, even for so brief a time, and when I told them what happened they were devastated. Fred, you touched the lives of many people all throughout your life, perhaps more than many people who are gifted with more years. You were a bright light.
Kathryn G.
February 14th, 2008 at 9:54 pm
Fred,
The impression you left on me in a short time was a great one. Your smile will be what I always remember throught out my life. I will never forget you and just being near you has changed my life. I pray that you are in heaven now and that you can rest in peace. Thank you for influencing my life.
Sasha
February 15th, 2008 at 7:44 am
Fred,
This day could have waited 100 more years and the world would have been a much better place having you in it. As it is, the world is still a much better place, having had the chance to be embraced by your warmth and amazing smile. I will always remember the fond memories you, myself and all the sigma chi boys had in our run in college. May you rest easy and enjoy the good life. You will be missed beyond belief.
My thoughts are with your family and all of the people you touched in such a wonderful way.
Asian Kevin
February 16th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
We have known the Stephens about eight years my son Jason has been friens with Ramon since 9th grade. He always thought as Fred as a big brother to him. Ramon and Fred both were in his wedding, a day we will never forget. We went to the funeral yesterday what a great service. You should be proud of what a wonderful young man you brought up he was really loved by many. Janet,Fred & Ramon our thoughts and prayers are with you.
We love you
The Bebo’s
February 16th, 2008 at 2:07 pm
The ‘life celebration’ of Fred yesterday was absolutely amazing. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, well a thousand words and a picture wouldn’t be able to begin to capture the scene at the F.A.M.E. Church yesterday morning. I sat there and smiled while tears ran down my cheeks as the Reverends spoke profound and meaningful words. Remember, He WALKED. God has an amazing Christian Soldier standing before him. Let us continue on with Fred’s dreams so that everyone can know about how awesome an man he is. One day I will be there with God, Fred, and the many other Christian Soldiers that fill heaven.
John 14:1-4 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, trust also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.”
My prayers will always be with the Stephens’ family for all of my WALKING days.
With love (and lots of it) KRISTI
February 29th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
Fred, I didn’t get a chance to come to your memorial. I actually just found out about this when I opened my Bellarmine Today.
God must have missed your presence something terrible to call you back to Him so early. Who could blame Him? You were always such a sweet soul; full of joy, quick for a laugh and a smile so bright, you could have swallowed the sun. God Bless You. My love and thoughts to your family.
Jen
March 10th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
Just before your Dear Sweet Son/Friend died, I found a photo of Fred and my son. It was spring break a few years ago. Fred and some friends were visiting the James Family in the area of Lake Tahoe. I was there to assist my friend Ms. James as she was recovering from Cancer treatment. I got to be the “Scout Mom”.
When I found this picture, I thought what a beautiful man and as most of you have recalled his fabulous SMILE. I found out that Fred died here in the complex that I live in…I was so very sad and shocked and believed that I must be holding the greatest photo of him. Reading through your Love Letters, I have come to realize that perhaps most photos have captured the essence of this sweet and compassionate man.
If I had known he lived within a stones throw I would have knocked on his door and Thanked Him. You see my Son was always the odd guy out, with social issues and being in Special Ed. he struggled to be accepted. Fred took him under his wing for this short time and joked/laughed with him…reached out to another Spirit who needed to feel accepted. He cleared his dishes and asked what help was needed in the kitchen. If I asked that wood be brought in he gladly assisted. I look back thinking the others were there to party and have a good time…he was there to have a good time and just BE present…an Old Soul…for sure.
Before I knew it was Fred, I thought for sure I would Never swim or float in our pool….lightening and snow storms were the magical times. On Feb.5th I took the photo into the pool room and sat making my own peace…
What I know from the death of my own brother: remember his Birth date and the day that he died. Don’t ask what they need… suggest a coffee date or “let’s go for a walk”.. and always let them reminisce…To his friends…stay in contact with his parents and family…you will remind them that Life goes on and that Fred has not been forgotten.
The Loss of A Child Is THE GREATEST LOSS OF ALL!
If you ever share photos let me know…I want to share and see the Joy he was to others.
Peace, just A Mom
August 1st, 2008 at 3:00 pm
I went to high school with Fred. I didn’t know until I just read the Bellarmine Today in the mail. I saw his name, and I thought it was a misprint, so I looked it up and sadly it’s true. I was in AP World History with Fred in senior year. He was so nice, always smiling. I can’t believe he’s gone. We were supposed to go to tolo together for senior year. He was going to wear a Zoot suit. But he got sick the day before. I will always remember Fred. Strange, but I’ve been thinking about him a lot lately; he just sort of pops up in my head. He was one of a kind. My heart cries at the loss of this beautiful soul. I wish his family and friends all the best and all my comfort and love in these horrible times. Fred will be sorely missed.