Marrying Young Is A BAD IDEA!
Yes Justin, you are the inspiration for this blog. You are not the only reason that I am writing it though. Many people, including our fantastic brother Jordan, also fall into this trap. My goal is to try to help people thoroughly consider their decisions before they make life changing moves.
I think that most people would agree that it is rash to make a decision without thoroughly considering the alternatives (except in life or death emergency type situations). Why then do so many people make poor decisions? My opinion is that these kind of poor decisions are made usually out of the wrong type of motivation- laziness, fear, boredom and despair. Deciding to get married young is just this sort of decision.
In almost all cases, getting married young is a bad idea. Why? It’s not a life or death situation. Waiting a few more years is very easy to do. You can have all of the benefits of marriage if you want them- living together, constant love and caring, sex, and everything else- without having the obligation of a lifetime of dedication to someone else. People who are very young will still grow and mature and change a whole lot and maybe you will one day hate the person you are in love with now.
Here’s the top reasons NOT to get married young:
-Adventures. Think of all of the amazing places you could go, toys you could buy, cars you could drive, women you could make scream and diseases you could cure if you didn’t have the constant burdening distraction of marriage.
-You don’t need to get married young. In America’s permissive culture today, you can have all of the benefits of marriage without the metal ring holding you down.
-Potential pregnancy does not make marriage a necessity. Use a condom, birth control and blow jobs to avoid the risk of pregnancy and if it does happen, abortions are easy to get. If you’re too cheap for abortions, golf clubs are easily available at many thrift stores.
-Financial stability is a must for marriage. A marriage is a commitment that requires tons of work and effort to make successful and money problems are listed as the biggest cause for divorce in America. People who get married when they are in debt (Justin) are just making it that much harder on themselves.
-No responsibility. When you aren’t married, you are your own man. You can do whatever you please. If you are married, your time and money and efforts will all go into your partner.
Some people say that their religious beliefs prevent them from having sex before marriage, but that is obviously not the issue here.
Anyway, Justin will live his own life and make his own decisions and no one can control them for him. He doesn’t listen to me, but hopefully someone else contemplating marriage will come across this blog and make the right decision to wait.
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February 20th, 2008 at 8:09 am
Its funny that you would mention me in the above blog.
Most of your gripes about getting married young are things I’m either not interested in or don’t necessarily apply.
And if we’re talking financial security as a reason, I definitely agree. I don’t think someone with credit card or other high interest debt should even ponder getting married.
February 20th, 2008 at 9:11 am
Financial security is vital to a healthy marriage, but I also think that people need to have a long trial period of living together to see if they are truly compatible. My friend Ian is an excellent example of this- he’s been dating his girlfriend for 7 years and they have lived together for about 5 years and he still isn’t sure he wants to get married. The other very important rule is to never marry your first love. All of those feelings are new to you and cause you to make poor decisions. You are in love with how you feel, not the person you are in the relationship with.
February 20th, 2008 at 11:30 am
Other than not having lived together for an extended period of time I think Meghan and I do alright.
February 20th, 2008 at 11:51 am
Why do alright when you can do grrrreeat!
February 22nd, 2008 at 5:04 pm
I don’t believe in giant talking cats peddling sugar coated flakes to unsuspecting children.
February 22nd, 2008 at 5:16 pm
Go read my post on Allena Ward and then we can talk about unsuspecting children.
December 10th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
You sound like a complete d- bag. I also agree that marriage at a young age is an irresponsible decision, but your reasoning just makes you sound like a pig headed selfish f-*&.
The abortion comment, honestly? Who made you… grow up. You’re part of the reason America is so fucked up. Stop preaching your bull shit ideals so the world and learn how to function as a valued member of society.
December 10th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
Also just to your above comment… couples that opt to live together before marriage are 24% more likely to end their marriage in divorce.
Do some research dumb @%%$.
December 10th, 2008 at 4:08 pm
Not Relevant… are you Heather?
December 10th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
No… I havo no idea who you are. I’m doing research for a paper I’m writing on the benefits of waiting to marry till you’re older and I came across your post I was slightly harsh so I apologize, but I meant what I said.