Comments on: Marrying Young Is A BAD IDEA!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 10:38:37 +0000

I totally agree with your blog… And I’m a girl.

By: Not impressed

Not impressed — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 22:06:43 +0000

this blog shows no intellect;
I agree completely with more realistic than you and the fact that he or she is in fact more realistic.
Just because your friend Justin’s marriage failed doesn’t mean marrying young is a bad idea. Obviously he isn’t a good example if he was dumb enough to fall into debt in the first place, and get married!
I got married while attending college and my wife attended college. We both got good financial aid; our part time jobs didnt go towards school as they would have if were single. Our earnings went towards getting a place together, we started with a shared a lab top (a very nice mac might i add)until sophmore year she got her own. I care more about her than myself so i gave her the new one =]
What im trying to get at is that caring for some one when i was young and having someone care for me made my life easier. I stress out about college all throughout high school until i met her junior year. I knew it would be alright.
As long as your realistic and truly in love there is nothing wrong with marrying young

By: More realistic than you

More realistic than you — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 20:38:19 +0000

“You can have all of the benefits of marriage if you want them- living together, constant love and caring, sex, and everything else- without having the obligation of a lifetime of dedication to someone else.”
these are obviously benefits from an immature boys perpective. To us more rational thinkers here are benefits aside from these. One of the benefits you spoke of attaining with out getting married is living together. Living together and married offers more bnefits than two single peopl living together. Especially if you ar young and attending college; finalcial aid is greatly improved. Now, for a marrige to work you must b open to seeing things from the womans perspective. I don’t know of any self respecting woman that would live with a man “without the obligation of a lifetime” and still manage to giv the man constant love,caring and sex. Not to mention the risk of pregnancy even on birth control. Why would you risk getting pregnant wih some one who hasn’t commited. It’s easy for you to talk about abortion by a golf club but som
e of us are more sensitive to killing our baby. The woman will evntually walk out on any man who thinks like you do.
Reality check: you won’t have your cake and eat it too.
No responsibility is one of th points you made. Maybe you should get married. It will teach you to be responible and grow up young man.
I’m in my thirties happily married for 15 years. My husban and I grew up together through college and have created a functioning family and life. Good luck findin someone when your old and all the woman your age have grow into themselves unable to mold with your life style. Find some one while your young. Grow together and be happy.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:13:08 +0000

Just out of curiosity: if you agree with Joel, why get married at all? I mean, if you can have ALL the benefits of marriage without actually getting married, why would you?

In reality, you can’t have ALL the benefits. It’s sort of a paradox too, because all these are selfish reasons (i.e. multiple women, do whatever you want, etc.) The key to an awesome relationship is to get over yourself. Stop being so damned selfish! Men, put your energy into the well-being of one woman who will reciprocate. Neither of you will ever trade the other in your lifetime. Marriage is simply coming to that conclusion.

The problem is not timing, the problem is the modern view of relationships – which is frankly backward – it is self-love. May as well just masterbate, at least you won’t end up with an STD.

Wisdom: The key to happiness is to quit working to make yourself happy. Make other people happy and you’ll find it yourself.

By: Someone

Someone — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 17:15:53 +0000

I’d have to agree, Heather. This post is shit. You sound like the party type that once 40 finally rolls around will realize how worthless your last 10 years of life have been. Just because we decide to do things differently doesn’t mean they are wrong. And as for marrying at 15, “Elizabath,” that’s fucking stupid. Your mind isn’t even fully developed at 15. You fail, as well.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 05:12:30 +0000

I am getting married young and I think that the reasons you listed are a little selfish. Especially the one about “having no responsibility” and “the metal ring weighing you down”. If someone wants to be single, fine. But I don’t think that getting married young is a bad thing…obviously, since I am doing it. My parents got married when they were almost 30 and they still weren’t financially stable. They also fight a lot because neither one of them ever gave up their “single-person” personas. Obviously, if someone has decided rationally to get married young then the reasons that you listed do not apply to their personal life goals. I don’t judge people who decide to stay single until they are 40, so lay off those that are content to get married at a younger age.

By: Elizabath

Elizabath — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 19:11:03 +0000

So really i have been with my husband for almost 10 years now!!!

By: Elizabath

Elizabath — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 19:10:01 +0000

For marrying at a young age is really not bad! It just depends on the people. I think everyone who says its bad is so stupid and wrong!!I have been with the love of my life for five years. I got married when i was 15 because me and my husband really love each other we have now been married for almost 5 years we are happly married and are gonna stay that way we have two kids a boy and a girl the boy is 2 years old and the girl is on her way. So dont get married if you just wanna get married and at least be with the one you think you love for four years.

By: AFriend

AFriend — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:15:02 +0000

You’re way too judgmental, Joel. There is not only one way to live life. Sure, depending what a person wants in life, there are “better” or “different” ways to live, but that doesn’t mean that a person can’t be happy with the life they choose, married or not. Just because you haven’t found your purpose in life or you haven’t figured out what really makes you happy, doesn’t mean that someone else hasn’t. Justin’s journey is different from yours. You shouldn’t judge him. You should be happy for him that maybe he has found something or someone that contributes to his happiness and success in life. It isn’t that marrying young is bad idea, it’s marrying when you are not ready is a bad idea. And as far as Justin goes, he knows himself best and is the only one who can decide that.

And frankly, there is no escaping the fact that you do not have all the answers you think and say you do. Most of your posts, just show your true lack of experience and understanding of the world. You can’t tell one person how to live and what will make them happy.

I think that really is what your real problem is, you don’t know what it is like to truly love someone or give without any expectation of getting anything in return. Everyday, you are constantly trying to figure out what to do with your time. Who should you hang out with? What bar should you party at? You wander around lonely when you don’t have your friends around or some girl around. The next day, you still feel empty and want some way to fill that emptiness you feel.

By: BR

BR — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 13:23:19 +0000

So Mr or Mrs “Not relevant” who wont even reveal their identity calls me a vagina. Is that the best thing you can come with. “Stop being so afraid” LMAO….afraid of what?? This is not about being afraid it’s about all these men today who are so pu**y whipped that they think they need to fall in love all the time.

Besides give me one good reason for falling in love?
And we all know that the feeling of love is no different than eating vast amounts of chocolate so I suggest that next time you feel lonely and not loved, go buy a pound of Mars bars, get some paper towels, grab your teddy bear from when you were 5, which I know you still have in your room and cry for about 2 hours and then Im sure you’ll feel better.