Comments on: The Fine Balance of Desire http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/ The best online marketing blog by Joel Gross Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:13:33 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mark Rody http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10155 Mark Rody Fri, 16 Jan 2009 15:41:05 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10155 However desire almost always follows once the unconditional love and selflessness are in place. Actually I believe desire is at its highest when those two things thrive in a relationship. However desire almost always follows once the unconditional love and selflessness are in place. Actually I believe desire is at its highest when those two things thrive in a relationship.

]]> By: Mark Rody http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10154 Mark Rody Fri, 16 Jan 2009 15:39:49 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10154 Well said Sara. Well said Sara.

]]> By: Sara http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10146 Sara Fri, 16 Jan 2009 12:23:52 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10146 We will always want what we can not have. The need to be the one who's desired the most are our animialistic need to be looked on as the best potential partner. Only when we are the one who's desired the most we realize that we want to feel that passionately about someone. Instead of looking into our own minds and figure out how to do that with the one who desires us, we tend to look around. The grass always seems greener on the other side. Who we need and who we want are sadly very rare the same individual. We often fool ourselves thinking that the one we want is the one we need. Only when we want the one we need, we will make mature decision that will lead to a balanced relationship. Love comes in many diffrent forms and to love someone unconditionally and selflessly are actually seperated from desire. We will always want what we can not have. The need to be the one who’s desired the most are our animialistic need to be looked on as the best potential partner. Only when we are the one who’s desired the most we realize that we want to feel that passionately about someone. Instead of looking into our own minds and figure out how to do that with the one who desires us, we tend to look around. The grass always seems greener on the other side.

Who we need and who we want are sadly very rare the same individual. We often fool ourselves thinking that the one we want is the one we need. Only when we want the one we need, we will make mature decision that will lead to a balanced relationship.

Love comes in many diffrent forms and to love someone unconditionally and selflessly are actually seperated from desire.

]]> By: Mark Rody http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10120 Mark Rody Thu, 15 Jan 2009 23:39:52 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10120 Hehe, yeah good luck with that =) I understand about the freedom part of it for you at this time. Freedom is nice, however in my relationship we thoroughly enjoy doing things together and with friends that I would spend my time doing most of what I do anyways even if I wasn't married. That is one great thing about being careful in choosing a spouse. We also had 4 years to get to know each other and weren't in any kind of rush which really helps you decide. The speedy way often results in disaster. I have a feeling you will settle down one day maybe when you get closer to 30 or in your 30s, it'll be interesting to see. Hehe, yeah good luck with that =) I understand about the freedom part of it for you at this time. Freedom is nice, however in my relationship we thoroughly enjoy doing things together and with friends that I would spend my time doing most of what I do anyways even if I wasn’t married. That is one great thing about being careful in choosing a spouse. We also had 4 years to get to know each other and weren’t in any kind of rush which really helps you decide. The speedy way often results in disaster. I have a feeling you will settle down one day maybe when you get closer to 30 or in your 30s, it’ll be interesting to see.

]]> By: Joel http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10107 Joel Thu, 15 Jan 2009 16:25:56 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10107 Mark, Your marriage sounds happy. Finding a great long term partner for me is a goal that I have, but I don't know if I am ready for that kind of thing at this point in my life. I love the freedom that I have. I guess its a trade-off between my freedom and my contentment with a great partner in a relationship. Hmmm... maybe I should find myself a good Christian girl like my grandma always exhorts me to do... the whole "husband as head of the household" thing sounds pretty nice. :) Mark,

Your marriage sounds happy. Finding a great long term partner for me is a goal that I have, but I don’t know if I am ready for that kind of thing at this point in my life. I love the freedom that I have. I guess its a trade-off between my freedom and my contentment with a great partner in a relationship.

Hmmm… maybe I should find myself a good Christian girl like my grandma always exhorts me to do… the whole “husband as head of the household” thing sounds pretty nice. :)

]]> By: Mark Rody http://www.blog.joelx.com/the-fine-balance-of-desire/2430/comment-page-1/#comment-10103 Mark Rody Thu, 15 Jan 2009 15:13:14 +0000 http://www.blog.joelx.com/?p=2430#comment-10103 Ah Joel, That's just another of the awesome benefits of a solid marriage. Just imagine having that 24/7 coming from both people, it is a great place to be! And this coming from someone who didn't have to "practice relationships" and didn't get wrapped up in the selfish desires. The best relationships are formed when both people realize that what they truly want is the best for the other person and they live selflessly with each other. That may be coming from a Christian perspective, but regardless of your religion, selfless love is the best. Ah Joel,

That’s just another of the awesome benefits of a solid marriage. Just imagine having that 24/7 coming from both people, it is a great place to be!

And this coming from someone who didn’t have to “practice relationships” and didn’t get wrapped up in the selfish desires.

The best relationships are formed when both people realize that what they truly want is the best for the other person and they live selflessly with each other. That may be coming from a Christian perspective, but regardless of your religion, selfless love is the best.

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